Do you truly love the brother/sister Fillah? R u sure? Rethink for a min

[Ukht_fillah]

Asalamu alaykum

I came across this wonderful reminder and would like to share it

Masha'Allah this sister's words have so much wisdom. To often nowadays we tell our friends we "love them for the sake of Allah" but are we truthful in our words? Because loving someone especially a friend for the sake of Allah entails a lot of things

read on insha'Allah

As-Salaamualikum WaraHmatulla hi Wabarakatuhu:

I know we are all aware of the Hadith in which the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the seven who will be under the shade of Allaah- just for quick reminder Ill state it because what Ill say following will be all linked back to this hadith inshaAllah:

The Prophet said: “There are seven whom Allaah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allaah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allaah’, a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allaah in private and so his eyes shed tears.” Narrated by Abu Hurairah & collected in Saheeh al-Bukhari (english trans.) vol.1, p.356, no.629 & Saheeh Muslim (english trans.) vol.2, p.493, no.2248

I remember that when I had first come across this hadith, and I thought to myself "how can there be such a HUGE reward and recompense for something so extremely simple like loving another for sake of Allaah? Like come on, I love all the sisters I know for the sake of Allaah. Why would it be that 6 of these actions are quite testing and this one action which seems so simple is also included under the seven?"- this was my reaction and I would always wonder this- but recently I think I realize why this immense reward and privilege is given to those who TRULY love each other for the sake of Allaah.

We all know that there are several brothers/sisters that we probably tell each and every day that we love them Fillah. We say it all the time: "Uhubuki Fillah, Uhubuk Fillah etc." Its kind of become the norm for us. But in reality do we understand what loving each other fillah means? Do we understand what this constitutes of? Do we understand that if truly we love one another for the sake of Allaah, this requires patience, overlooking, acceptance, advising one another according to quraan and sunnah, being there for the other irrelevant of how they are treating you, keeping in touch, not concentrating only on the bad qualities. We all most probably are thinking "yes we all do have this for so and so brother/sister"- but when that brother/sister say- perhaps is ignoring you or is giving another brother or sister more attention than they are giving you, or isnt keeping hasnt kept in touch with you for such a long time or even stooped low enough (Allaah forbid) to backbite/slander you or cuss at you- what is YOUR reaction going to be? You're just going to start disliking the person and decide to not keep in touch at all na'am? Your going to think to yourself why did I trust him/her with all my secrets and think that they would always be there for me? Why did I even love him/her so much? I should have known this is what this person would have shown me! Well guess what, it seems that if this is the case then in reality you dont really love this person SOLELY for the sake of Allaah- you love them for your nafs and your sake. If the person continues to show good and be a good companion to you, then you will continue to be good back and show them good. But once their flaws and shortcomings show (and keep in mind EVERYONE of us has flaws and shortcomings, we ourselves have numerous- it is only part of being human to have flaws)- once the person's negative side shows then we are quick to turn away from the person and decide to just give salaams and go on silent treatment with all other words. Is this truly loving for the sake of Allaah?

One sister was speaking to me the other day and telling me that there is this one sister who she is/well was extremely close with. This sister she said she truly loved for sake of Allaah and they were always motivating each other and would turn to each other with everything. (I will refer to the sister who spoke to me as sister A. Her friend is sister B and the other sister that sis B was giving more attention to is sister C). Recently sister B was giving a lot more attention and spending loads more time with sister C than sister A. So what happened was that this caused extreme amount of jealousy to occur in the sister A's heart. She felt jealous that another sister was "taking away" her close friend. She was telling me that their relationship was for sake of Allaah etc. Sis A and sis B were basically now ignoring each other, just passing salaams and not as close- all due to another sister who was getting closer to one of the sister's. Basically the sister who was speaking to me felt that she no longer could benefit as much from the sister due to her being "too busy" with another sister. She was being hesitant to call the sister and try to speak to her about it or even conact the sister just to see how she was doing. It stuck me then- how can she claim that the relationship is SOLELY for the sake of Allaah- if she is not benefitting then she is turning away from the sister and if she is benefitting and they are getting along fine then they love each other and dont turn away from each other? How can she say that she only loves the sister for the sake of Allaah if she is hesitating to even make a call because she feels the sister is not there for her like she used to anymore?

I used to have this thing as well- where if sisters that I would always speak to and who would always be there when I needed someone to hear me out and advise me, if they would not speak to me or not keep in touch as much for a while due to whatever reason, I would feel hurt and stumped upon. Even now there are many sisters who will talk with me for numerous hours and I will definitely feel very close and trusted wa lillahil Hamd, but then the next few weeks the sister barely even talks to me or is too busy to speak to me or even ask how I am doing- and then Ill feel hurt. But you see now I realize- then am I truly loving her for the sake of Allaah? Or do I merely love her my low nafs? Shouldnt I make an effort to call, keep in touch, forgive, overlook, make 700 excuses before I come up with any reasons to blame the sister? If I will reacte by ignoring, thinking oh she thinks she's too good for me, or just having evil thoughts in my heart about her, or feeling as though I was always there for her why cant she be here for me now- then in reality I have proven to myself that I do not love this sister solely for the sake of Allaah- I love her when she benefits me and if she does not do that- then the heck with her! Do you see what I mean?

Basically I think loving any brother/sister for the sake of Allaah requires a lot- some of these things being patience, understanding, making excuses for your brother/sister, blaming yourself first if something wrong happens, overlooking (i stress this over and over), advising sincerely, keeping in touch (not just because you need to speak and vent but for sake of Allaah), being the mirror to the other, making duaa for them in their absence etc.

And remember mankind is bound to get sucked up in their affairs- everyone one of us has their own trials and tests to go through so please dont think that just because the brother/sister doesnt call you or doesnt give you more of their time, that they are hating you or they dont care about you anymore. It is just that as humans we are demanding- demanding for money, luxury, time, good food, good spouses, children, status and the list goes on and on. Remember to always turn to Allaah first and foremost- and dont expect humans to be perfect- only Allaah is perfect. If you expect any human being (asides from the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or perhaps another prophet alayhi sallam) to come out as perfect, if you do expect this from ANY person then expect your heart to be broken because you are setting your beliefs on something that is mere set of lies.

I just wanted to mention the above because I feel this is a reality that exists within so many of us today- All too often sisters say to me they love me for the sake of Allaah and all too often I tell other sisters I love them for the sake of Allaah. But now I realize- these words of love hold a lot more and is very deep. So the next time you tell someone you love them FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH- re think that before saying it, maybe you should simply say "I love you" instead of saying i love you FILLAH- then once you TRULY love the other for sake of Allaah, then add on "FILLAH"

May Allaah (swt) gives us all tawfeeq to love each other only for His Sake and not for any one of our own nafs, and May He (swt) bless us all enough to be those under His shade the day when none else will provide shade, Allahumma Aameen.

[Ukht_fillah]

It's a shame I didn't understand this hadeeth the way it's suppose to be understood. eg. being patient with a friend, overlooking bad faults etc...I would have avoided so many heart breaks.

[Princess Noor]

We all know that there are several brothers/sisters that we probably tell each and every day that we love them Fillah. We say it all the time: "Uhubuki Fillah, Uhubuk Fillah etc." Its kind of become the norm for us

SubhanAllah a beautiful post...tbh i am not surprised how the term love is used......but subhanAllah love for the sake of Allah is not about what you will get in return....u ask for ur reward from Allah...do not av too many expectations cuz its expectations that make us weak...we fall short in realising the goodness sum1 has...no matter how bad situation gets with sum1...always remember the goodness u saw in that person..yes its human nature to feel betrayed and hurt n at times u wud feel angry but wen u remember the goodness in that person...it will help u deal with ur situo better...there won't be any bitterness in ur heart towards dat person..but at the same time wen sum1 declares their love to you but act contrary to what they sed...then that shows u in this day n age love is confined to words only (for sum)...true love is not restricted...its unconditional...u becum each others strength at the time of weaknesses....u can only understand how much sum1 loves u through their actions...or may b sumtymz through their silence...but these words 'love u for the sake of Allah' are misused and we av forgotten their value…May Allah give us tawfeek to be patient with the ones we love….wen ur loved ones betray you, it hurts more that’s y always make dua that Allah gives u strength to forgive them….cuz u dnt expect it from them hence it becumz harder to forgive. May Allah give us tawfeek to be merciful towards his slaves enshAllah…

Her friend is sister B and the other sister that sis B was giving more attention to is sister C). Recently sister B was giving a lot more attention and spending loads more time with sister C than sister A. So what happened was that this caused extreme amount of jealousy to occur in the sister A's heart.

"Love is like the sea. It's a moving thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from the shore it meets, and it's different with every shore. "

Eres a quote my frend once gave to me...sumtymz u meet situations where you care for sum1 with all ur heart but they becum careless towards u...n u cnt even understand why they act like that...just accept that its reality n know that:

Don't be so bitter that people spit you out, Don't be so sweet that people swallow you up!

But at the same time never forget the true form of love...do not let experiences change the meaning of love...love still is the same but some people don't understand the meaning of love...love is beautiful and blessing from Allah...

“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls”

Remember you love is for the sake of Allah and you will get a bigger and better reward from Allah so i still say:




even if your heart feels like this:



At the end of the day you will get stronger...learn from ur experiences...n remember u love ur sister/brother in Islam for Allah's sake and Allah will never leave you alone...sumtymz it mite feel like sadness is never going to end but if you look at things/experiences with the eye of your heart...u will surely see light...

It's a shame I didn't understand this hadeeth the way it's suppose to be understood. eg. being patient with a friend, overlooking bad faults etc...I would have avoided so many heart breaks.

Sister sumtymz we are blinded by our emotions...n sum things require alot of sabr...wen we feel strongly about sumthing den we 4gt to act with wisdom due to our anger and emotions... but at the same time its a blessing if we learn from our mistakes...n we realise where we went rong so ellhumdulilah therez always time to improve ourselves enshAllah....we all fall short so we ask Allah to strengthen us enshAllah so we can act with wisdom.

May Allah fill our hearts with love and mercy (Ameen).

Take Care

Ma'a Sallamah

[Journey2Jannah]

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This is a relevent youtube clip.. nice posts btw.. in fact they are AWSOME!

Masalaam

[Journey2Jannah]

YouTube Video

oops it did'nt post first time for some reason.. here it goes again.

[Princess Noor]

^^

JazakhAllah khayr

erez a link to an article i came across...

http://www.islamcocg.com/en/index.ph...d=20&Itemid=84

[Ukht_fillah]

Asalamu alaykum


A nasheed about the benefit of good friends and how vital it is for our Emaan.

YouTube Video

[Hashim Regents]

The amount of time we spend with our friends, it would be worthwhile to just spend around 10 or 15 minutes to think about all our friendships. I advise every brother and sister reading this to try this.

Go through each friendship you currently have and think about each one, one by one, are you in it because when you are with them you feel your emaan rise, you remember Allah jala wa Ala' whenever your with them, when your not with them you miss them and when you are with them you want to hold onto that last moment when you say goodbye, if all this is the case then you can probaly be sure you really do love them for the sake of Allah Subhanhu wa ta Ala'.

We should remember however, our friendships are ladders for us to climb out of this wordly life and be closer to Allah azzawajal', if our friendships are ditches in this dunya, i.e. if they lead you too displease Allah, then you must re-evaluate that particular friendship. So many times we feel afraid to remind a friend out of fear of jepodising the friendship, or we more easily fall into sin because of the friendship. Therefore, either we choose the highest company in jannah, the Anbiya, Saliheen, Shuhada and the truthful, or the company of this dunya.

Finally, many of us claim to love Rasool'Allah (s), but few really do. A man said to the Messenger of Allah (s) 'by Allah I love you', the Messenger of Allah (s) replied 'think what you are saying', the man said 'by Allah I love you', the Prophet replied 'let the one who loves me prepare for poverty (i.e. hardships) to reach him quicker than a flood reaches its desitination'. A major roadblock between us truly loving the Prophet (s) is wealth, fame, pride, and all other branches which stem from pursuing this dunya.

This is because the Messenger of Allah (s) said, 'wealth and fame are more destructive to a persons deen than a wolf is in the middle of a herd of sheep.'

May Allah azzawajjal' purify our lives and give us the best of company in this life and in the next.

[FrozenKulb]

This is a good post. It's not just friends who we must love for the sake of Allah. It's anyone and everyone. In the sense we don't behave unjust with them.

From my experience, If I find a friend troubles me, someone who may lead me to do backbiting I simply break the string of friendship between us, I avoid them as much as possible. It keeps me in peace and saves them from sinning.

I must say, due to the rise of facebook, many people are turning haywire, its all competition and seems to me nobody actually loves anyone. Everyone wants to look different, unique and famous.

With all this, I doubt if 'loving for the sake of Allah' is there, Its more 'loving for the sake of Fame' is what really shines out.

May Allah make the muslims ummah honest, genuine and simply the best...ameen..

[Journey2Jannah]

Allah subhanahu wa ta'la will say on yawmal qiyaamah - “Where are those who love each other for the sake of My glory? Today I will shelter them with My shade, as there is no shade today except My shade”.” (Sahih al Muslim)